wolfman18 said:
wilmwolf80 said:
I've shared this thought with a few others privately, but since it's a done deal now I'll post it here. During the ACC tournament game when they were interviewing Tommy's parents, the reporter asked his dad if he was excited because Tommy had hit three homers already, and his dad's response was something like that he was just glad he was making contact after going 0-4 the first game. It really struck me, because it reminded me of all the overbearing baseball dads I remembered from when I played. Your kid is breaking the all time record for freshman homers and that's what you are thinking about? In retrospect, their demeanor during that interview was telling. Just seemed odd.
I remember so many hardcore dads from when I was a kid into high school. Love my dad, but he was a big reason I decided to stop playing when I was in HS.
I have two daughters who play travel sports (soccer 10 yr old and volleyball 12 yr old). I tell them all the time that this is THEIR sports journey. Not mine and while me watching them play and helping them improve is one of my favorite things, I'll never push them so hard they dislike it. I'll also never focus on the negative. I have a personal rule that I was told early on that most kids quit playing sports because of one thing. The ride home with their parents after a game. Sure we all want our kids to be the very best. Be better than we were but to do that, they need to have two things:
1. Drive. The best athletes work their butts off when their coach isn't around. They're outside working on a move in soccer. Perfecting a set in volleyball. Getting in layups and free throws, etc. As Mike Tysons coach said one time to Mike "If you decide you don't want to work more its ok. Just know your opponent is." I'm paraphrasing but you get the point.
2. Lots of luck and good genes. Let's be honest. Your kid can have one of the prettiest passes full of touch, anticipation, etc but if your kid is 5'7 and a senior in high school, it isn't gonna happen.
I say all of this to as a friendly reminder to those of us who have kids who play sports. Be your kids biggest supporter. Push them gently when they need a nudge and be there to listen them vent with no response. The best thing you can do is make sure that you're there for them. And this advice applies to not just sports but life in general. For me, it's no judgement. I want them to fail and fail often. You learn so much more in life through failure than success and why not fail young and early when you have a soft landing and big support system.
For Tommy, his Dad has probably pushed and pushed and pushed and helped him get to where he is today. With that said, he's probably the #1 reason Tommy is in this position he is in now. And that is VERY unfortunate for him if it's like I expect.